Fear of what other people will think is the most paralysing dynamic in business and in our lives. Some say, that you will never own the future if you care about what other people think.
While this may be true, I think there is a much more destructive factor than fear – it’s inertia itself.
Yes, it derives partly from fear, as people wrongly assume since they stay within their comfort zone, this will render them calm and trouble-free.
It’s 6 in the morning (which would actually make 5am as we entered Summer Time) and I still can’t fall asleep. Yesterday I met with a friend of mine who few months ago joined Improbable (the new hot start-up from London, recently secured Series A of $20M with Andreessen Horowitz). My head can’t stop thinking. Unordered thoughts run from the vision of future me having built equally awesome company (companies), just to switch into the fear of the unknown in the very next moment.
Jim Rohn once said:
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
It doesn’t matter much how smart you are (Although it certainly helps). It doesn’t matter how talented you are (There are so many untalented, yet successful people), which skills you have (Bright people delegate things which they can’t do to skilled experts) or which family you came from. All that counts if you want to be successful in life is the people you surround yourself with.
A lot of people think that highly successful have to be selfish, cruel horrible people to get to where they are (You probably think what the hell do I know if I’m not yet successful?).
While I believe this is true in some cases (as it is with every other social class), after analysing the lives of many already established, successful people and filtering public relations tricks from the real facts, I think shamelessness is the biggest secret to breaking through.
Talking publicly about my emotions, fears and doubts embarrasses me as much as the idea of taking a selfie and uploading it on the social network. I don’t know if it’s because of the idea rooted by social pressure that people should only share their positive feelings, happy moments (these beautiful Instagram pictures of the last holidays, being in the first row at the concert, snapshots of participating in something exclusive/limited etc..