What’s your story?
Ok, enough of this 3rd person angle.
While I couldn’t have had much influence in my early years, now I am writing my story more or less the way I want it. I see lots of other people letting their story to be written by randomness.
Mirror, mirror on the wall…
It’s amusing how over the years from an innocent child curious of the world we put on a poker face and transform into someone, who finds revealing feelings a weakness. We say we yearn pure connection, but we choose to navigate within safety zone, for some reason convinced that the other person is waiting to ridicule us for our clumsy efforts to be different.
Even I sometimes have second thoughts about running this blog and showing my failures, thus making myself vulnerable. I haven’t achieved yet the success I wanted. I’m 29 years old, nowhere near jumping on 30 under 30 and I’ve pivoted my businesses probably more times than it’s sane to do. Maybe I’ve been focusing too much on what I wanted instead of putting me aside and listening to stories of others.
Untrite is about being an example helping me to self-heal and perfect myself. I’ve decided to show here that there are underlying human factors (a.ka. imperfections and vulnerabilities) to each business/project created.
I think we could achieve much more by encouraging others to show what they are working on or what they crave for.
Story of our lives
Each of us has a great story to tell. We look at Friends or How I Met My Mother and we dream of having equally colourful daily lives as the said characters.
What we don’t realise that our own stories can make improve other peoples’ lives and be a foundation of great businesses. We just need to be more open and trusting. When you let yourself loose – amazing things start to happen. You find out that you have more in common with people around you, and that you can learn a lot from them.
Humans are driven by story. We even take historic events and push them this way and that so they fit into a neat narrative. We’re all suckers for a great tale. We use stories all the time to get out of trouble, meet potential romantic partners, lobby for change, choose political candidates, or sell a business deal.
That’s why I was very happy to see what some people do something about it. Few days ago I met with my friend Dominika (whom Sara and I met on Google Campus through a random people chatter). She told me about her brilliant in its simplicity New Year’s resolution: each day she will chat to a random person driving conversation into deeper, more personal questions.
To to that, obviously she needs to open herself first. She is a self-proclaimed introverted extrovert but decided to challenge herself (in this project she does it everyday). She told me it’s a cleansing, inspiring journey and that it also helps her to learn more about herself.
I encouraged her to start blogging about it.
She said people are craving for contact, but are afraid of doing the first step. As a result they seem unaccessible, cold and sometimes – arrogant. But that’s just a self-defence mechanism. They fear ridicule. That’s a lesson that if you don’t know the full picture and the drivers behind someone’s behaviour, you should not make early presumptions.
So… what’s your story?